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Effective Communication between Couples, Young or Ageing

Effective Communication between Couples, Young or Ageing

I guess everybody does it; sitting on a terrace and watching other people’s behaviour? I love it, especially when something happens of which you know the outcome before it occurs. 🙂

I knew when I heard the elderly couple arguing about which way to go, he would have it his way and she would be right in the end.

So she reluctantly followed him and after 100 meters plus another argument, they turned around and passed us again going in the opposite direction. 

It wasn’t very effective communication between couples. He didn’t want to listen to her and was only focused on having it his way. She was obviously not capable of talking to him in a way that would convince him without giving him the idea he was stupid.

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How to Organize Neighbourhood Care in a Sensible Manner?

How to Organize Neighbourhood Care in a Sensible Manner?

Neighbourhood care is booming in the Netherlands and Germany. More and more citizens participate in social networks in their neighbourhoods to ensure care support.

Such shared support compensates for the rise of social, physical, psychological and cognitive shortcomings when ageing. Neighbourhood care is a clever choice when ageing.

With this type of self-organization, citizens compensate for the shortcomings of ageing and for the shortcomings of public and commercial care services.

Particularly given the current health crisis, these initiatives are more than welcome. However, how to organize neighbourhood care?

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What is the Meaning of a Personal Legacy? Being remembered for . . .

What is the Meaning of a Personal Legacy? Being remembered for . . .

In the past, I have been a caregiver. The last 10 years of my father’s life for both my parents. And after his passing another 10 years for my mother. The periods after their deaths were intensive times of reflection. 

What is the meaning of a personal legacy? What do I remember most about my parents? And as a consequence: what do I want to be remembered for later?

We probably all want to be remembered for great deeds, but are we actually setting anything in motion that indeed is great? How big are our dreams and what efforts do we take to accomplish them?

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Does our Identity Change when we Age?

Does our Identity Change when we Age?

Does our identity change when we age? Why is this a relevant question? The sympathetic Belgian psychiatrist Paul Verhaeghe is very precise about this (from his book The end of psychotherapy): “Without identity, we are no more than our body.”

What is the core of our identity? What makes our identity so important? The answer Verhaeghe gives is very surprising: we have an identity because we share an enormous amount of human traits with other humans. The Latin identitas means similarity.

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Are We Losing the Battle against the COVID-19 Virus?

Are We Losing the Battle against the COVID-19 Virus?

The battle against the covid-19 virus was from the beginning not centred on the problems of the people really suffering. Everybody hoped a vaccine would solve their personal problems. Such as not being able to go to work or to school or the theatre or a bar or restaurant.

The way the virus behaved though puzzled me: Why do we concentrate on a vaccine when most people do not suffer from the virus, even when they are infected? Why vaccinate everybody, when most people do not suffer from the virus? Why close all businesses, schools and public gatherings? Why wear masks? Why wreck the economy?

Nobody seemed to ponder the most fundamental question. Why don’t we focus on the perspective of the end of the pipeline? This end is that only a limited number of affected people suffer proportionally much more than the majority. Nobody suggested the end of the pipeline as the strategic focus of pandemic policies.

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Independent Living Senior Housing Initiatives are Valued and Cherished

Independent Living Senior Housing Initiatives are Valued and Cherished

Independent living senior housing is a common practice around the world. Senior citizens decide to join hands, hire or buy a house together, and appreciate each other’s company. For them, it’s also a way to economize. When required they together hire care or other services.

Examples of such practices are the Village-to-Village-Network in the USA and Trabensol near Madrid in Spain. The Seniorengenossenschaften in Germany are also an excellent example of intense collaboration between senior citizens.

It is good to take a closer look at the discussion to better understand the complexities of independent living senior housing initiatives. From a recent example in Belgium, I explain the discussion. This example shows how important it is to timely start such an initiative and pay close attention to the rules.

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What is the Best Long-term Care Plan and Why do we Need One?

What is the Best Long-term Care Plan and Why do we Need One?

The question “What is the best long-term care plan?” is not discussed much. We tend to leave the preparation of this plan to care professionals. Whether this is the best choice though remains to be seen. Our long-term care deserves more consideration.

A good starting point for the debate about our personal long-term care plan is the way long-term care is funded at the moment. From there I will discuss our options to prepare for the best personal long-term care plan.

The maintenance of dignity and independence, access to care services and quality of life are the goals of long-term care. People want to live in their own homes and neighbourhoods for as long as possible.

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Make a Daily Intention – Happiness is Living on Purpose

Make a Daily Intention - Happiness is Living on Purpose

Having a purpose in life is a guarantee to make you feel happy. Haven’t we all experienced times in our life we were working on something and had to force ourselves to stop for the day? And couldn’t wait to continue the next day.

A lot of people only experience this as a kid and forget all about it in adult life. Having a purposeful daily intention can bring that feeling back.

Tom and I always loved our job. On the rare occasions when that was not the case, we resigned. And later, when we were entrepreneurs, we didn’t work with clients who were too stressed.

Some friends and acquaintances said, almost enviously, that we were lucky. While we felt that we were just working for it. Yet, it was in an unconscious way. That changed later by using some tools. This article is about how you can give meaning to a daily intention.

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The Advantages of Co-housing, a Revival of the Village Sentiment

The Advantages of Co-housing, a Revival of the Village Sentiment

In Amsterdam, there are at least 20 co-housing projects. Most of these projects are established by older people. But what is co-housing, what are the advantages, and how do you start and maintain a co-housing project? 

From the outset, any co-housing project involves a community of people. These people deliberately choose to invest in each other. Moreover, most co-housing projects contribute to the local community, to education, and to the environment.

To live up to these ideals they organize all sorts of activities, for those that live in the project as well as for outsiders. 

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